I would not recommend going to his family to tell them about the abortion. It can be very cathartic for both parties. And maybe he will return. Regarding your family, maybe it would be good to talk to a parent of family member who can support you and also help encourage you and help you find a post-abortion counselor. He can go without the physical sex for extended periods of time, but he needs the sexual energy to feel satisfied.
Everyone has one or two core fears, and it is likely that this life long sense that you do not want children is related to one of your core fears. Then for the next few months times a day, then down to times per week. It may be hard to see now, but your child will be a blessing to both of you. They are afraid of exposing another child to those hurts. I offer you this advice as I went through with a termination this year. Even seeing you is a reminder of her unresolved issues, and so likely triggers avoidance behavior. Each step I took created a spark in our marriage and improved or sex life.
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Cuckold describes a wife who is allowed to have sex with other men but the husband must be faithful to his wife. Erotic power is an expression of love. She had the abortion, the mum was pretending not to be aware of what happened. A list of those identified by the American Psychological Association is here. The bonus for me is that every time I get him to put a dick in his mouth I explode between my legs. Even finding a day to go that is six months from now would give you some hope that you are going to work through this together with the help of people who know how to help you.
She usually blames the classes or the program for her being stressed out but i know its the abortion stressing her out. This is a term for your husband to perform oral sex on you after you have had intercourse with him or another man. Underage laws are not often enforced, especially with a 16 year-old. He may not have wanted this baby, but he did want the sex which led to this baby. He must give her respect, and recognize her superiority. Not wanting children is likely an avoidance reaction. My wife believes it was depression.